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Guest post by Julie Morris

You don’t wake up one day suddenly glowing with confidence. It’s more like laying bricks. Small, steady. One awkward action stacked on another. One quiet decision followed by a louder one. Eventually, it stands tall enough for you to see over the fear. And then, things start to move.

Start With the Mindset You Wake Up With

Before your feet hit the floor, your thinking already shapes the rest of the day. That first thought, the tone of it, the way it echoes—it’s not minor. It’s the pilot light. If you can start each morning with growth, you’re not reacting to life, you’re designing it. Maybe it’s journaling, maybe it’s breathwork, or maybe it’s making your bed like a soldier with something to prove. Either way, mindset isn’t woo-woo; it’s the scaffolding. Get it right early, and everything else fits more easily into place.

Turn Habits Into Muscle Memory

Confidence doesn’t ride in on the wings of a TED Talk. It arrives through sweat and repetition. Start small, something tiny that you do every single day: floss, walk a block, drink water before coffee. The trick is to conquer a personal challenge so consistently that your brain forgets how to doubt you. That’s what makes habits magical; they delete the need for willpower. You begin to believe you’re the kind of person who gets things done. And guess what? You are.

Learn to Speak Up and Not Shut Down

Public speaking is just a fear of being seen. But once you stop pretending you’re supposed to be perfect, the panic dims. Turns out, you can reframe anxiety as excitement with a few mental pivots and a steady breath. It doesn’t matter if you’re pitching to a boardroom or introducing yourself in a Zoom call; your voice matters. Use it often. Loud doesn’t mean confident, by the way, clear and grounded wins every time. Own the space you’re in, then expand it.

Find Someone Who’s Done It Before

Mentorship isn’t some LinkedIn buzzword, it’s the lifeline that can shift your trajectory. No one gets brave alone. Having someone ahead of you in the game gives you a mirror, a map, and a reminder that you’re not as lost as you think. The data doesn’t lie, mentoring increases confidence and satisfaction in both directions. And you don’t need a formal arrangement. Sometimes, it’s just one honest conversation with someone who refuses to let you shrink. Go find that person.

Back to School, Forward in Life

There’s power in learning something new, especially when your career needs more than a patch job. Going back to school isn’t just about textbooks; it’s about reclaiming your future. Online programs give you the freedom to work at your own pace, which means your life doesn’t have to stop for your goals. Even better, you can choose from an array of options, whether you want a nursing, business, education, or cybersecurity degree. Credentials don’t guarantee confidence, but they sure as hell help build it. And sometimes, a degree is less about the paper and more about proving to yourself that you’re capable.

Say No So You Can Say Yes

Confidence doesn’t grow in chaos. If you’re always available, always agreeable, you become forgettable, to yourself most of all. You’ve got to start defending your energy like it’s your retirement fund. Boundaries aren’t rude, they’re respectful. Not just to you, but to the people you engage with. You don’t need to explain every no. You just need to mean it.

Get Your Body on Your Side

No, you don’t need to run marathons. But you do need to move like you give a damn about staying alive. Eat things that didn’t come vacuum-sealed in plastic, drink water like it’s a job, and sleep like it’s sacred. Small stuff, right? But the compounding effect is enormous. You’ll notice that exercise and healthy foods elevate confidence in ways a compliment or Instagram like never could. When your body feels strong, your decisions feel solid.

Confidence is not a lightning strike. It’s built in layers, choices, and everyday courage. You don’t need to fix everything at once. Just today. Just one action that leans in the direction of belief. Stack those, brick by uneven brick, and before you know it, you’re living the life you thought belonged to someone else. Except it doesn’t. It belongs to you.

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My January column for the Catholic Free Press

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The long Christmas break (along with the mild weather) is over and reality comes back with a thud. The prospect of a long winter ahead is daunting especially with memories of the epic snowfall amounts of last year still haunting many of us.

I once anticipated January with dread. Winter can be dark, oppressive and confining: the arctic air and biting winds… the deep snows burying the landscape … ice covering the streets and sidewalks … darkness that greets us when we rise and meets us at the end of each work day.

January is a quiet month. Birds don’t come to the feeder; their songs no longer greet me in the morning. Crickets and locusts have gone silent at night.

January was a month without life.

Then I read Henry Beston’s classic, The Outermost House. Beston chronicles a year of his life spent in solitude in an isolated one bedroom cottage which he built and christened the Fo’castle. Built in 1925, the 20 ft. x 16 ft. cottage was located at the edge of Coast Guard Beach in Eastham (now part of the Cape Cod National Seashore). Named a National Literary Landmark in 1964, it was washed out to sea by the Blizzard of ’78.

Originally planning to spent two weeks at the cottage, Beston was so taken with the “beauty and mystery of this earth and outer sea … that [he] could not go.” During that year he wrote of the change of seasons and its effect upon his surroundings: the birds, animals, and insects; vegetation; the sand and the waves; the stars in the night sky. His prose is poetic, painting vivid pictures of color and texture. He describes the chaos and despair aroused by a devastating blizzard which nearly washed away his cottage, putting his life in peril. Yet even in the bleakest of settings, Beston’s writing inspires wonder and awe.

The Outermost House changed my perception of January because of Beston’s descriptions of arctic birds migrating down from the north, resting on the beach in the dead of winter. That description lifted me out of my own small circumstance and reminded me that life still goes on around me.

Brian Gratwicke Arctic tern, Flickr Creative Commons

There was not only life, but light in the darkness: “Light came slowly into the world, coming not so much from the east as from some vague, general nowhere – a light that did not grow brighter but only increased in quantity.” It reminded me that by the end of January, the sky becomes pink again by the time I leave the office. The days are growing longer and the light, brighter.

January is not unlike time spent in the womb, waiting to be born. The caterpillar metamorphoses into a butterfly within the confines of the cocoon and breaks through into the sunlight. The baby, its delicate features forming nine months inside the dark, protective womb of its mother, emerges into the light at birth.

We just celebrated the coming of such a baby who brought his eternal Light into the world. His Light pierces the darkness and brings new life.

Ivan Saracino Christ's nativity, Flickr Creative Commons — Ivan Saracino Christ’s nativity, Flickr Creative Commons

So, rather than give in to the melancholy that can come with the conclusion of Christmas and the reality of winter, I seek instead to embrace this Light. It may be cold, snowy and dark outside but within, that Light will increase in brightness and quantity as I take advantage of the quiet of January to bask in it.

The arctic birds are returning to the Outer Cape. The days are growing longer. In the repose of January it is time to partake of the Light of Christ.

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